Sunday, October 19, 2008
Friday, October 17, 2008
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP
By Rev. Ronald McFadden
If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.
Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i.
Today Apple will announce refreshes to their Macbook pro lines. As the rumour mill speeds up, the following are loosely agreed:
Macbook Pro 15" Update
No 17" Macbook Pro
No Macbook Updates - though logic says they will announce them too
speeds up to 2.8GHz
improved wireless connectivity
7200 RPM hard drives
Possibly Blu-Ray Support
128GB SSD option
user-serviceable hard drive
extra long battery
$899 product that is likely to be a 24" LED Cinema Display
The pic looks gorgeous - more in line with the current iMac design. The only things that bothers me is the glossy Display. I worked with one at LOVEFiLM, and in an office with lots of windows it can be a bit of a nightmare. Oh - and my current Macbook Pro which I purchased just a few months ago is officially an antique - and resell value has dropped more than the recent stock market crash.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Apple is hosting a media event on October 14th. As expected new notebooks are going to be announced. Attached is the invitation, as well as a mockup of what the new Macbooks could look like. They are rumoured to be more in line with the Macbook Air:
Thursday, October 09, 2008
dancing the stage show. The movie was good yes, but it doesn't quite
translate to the stage. The scenes disjointed and sometimes cringe
worthy. Unless you're over 40, had way much to drink on a night out
with your equally drunken friends, you might enjoy it. Otherwise give
it a wide berth.